The day after the incident, I put a post on my personal facebook page. To my pleasant surprise, I received over one-hundred heartfelt responses. I feel really lucky to have such a great support system of friends and family. Here is the post copied and pasted from my facebook page: Trying to keep a spiritual mindset. Here's the deal-- I was mugged last night by three thugs. I had a bunch of instruments, my computer, notebooks, etc. They threw me to the ground and took 2 out of my 4 bags, and my wallet. I was on my back! I have now lost years worth of musical ideas, pictures, a clarinet, everything. I'm not looking for sympathy. Just want to keep everyone in the loop that I'm going to be pre-occupied for a bit. As frustrated and upset as I am now (and will be for years to come) I am also very thankful to be alive and in good health.This is a spiritual awakening for me. I get so emotionally uplifted when I think about how much strength we have as human beings. We are so strong!!! All of us! I am so happy to be alive! Love, Ben :)
Listen. As a result of a recent unfortunate incident, I have changed my perception of the world and I continually question what I consider to be “important.” On October 14th, a Sunday night at midnight, I was coming home to my apartment in Hartford, CT after spending an eventful weekend playing a private party gig in the Catskills and then attending a memorial “unveiling” service for my grandfather in Boston. I parked in my private, gated parking lot, took all of my belongings out of my car, and walked through a well-lit, wide alley to get to my apartment. I have done this hundreds, if not thousands of times. I made sure that I had all of my bags, which included my saxophone, melodica, flute, clarinet, laptop, brand-new iphone, portable hard drive, and portable phone charger. Suddenly, a young thuggish guy slowly walked up to me and ordered “Yo give me all of your stuff. Let’s make this quick.” This did not feel real. I have had nightmares about this sort of thing and at that moment I was taken out of the context of real life. Shocking would be an understatement. I didn’t want to give him anything, but I had no idea what to to do. I started to run away, but then he grabbed me. I was able to push him off but just as soon as I broke free, two other thuggish guys came out of nowhere and threw me to the ground. I clenched on to all of my belongings in hopes that they wouldn’t take anything. Then I started to yell but it was already too late. They had taken my wallet, keys, two of my bags which included my laptop, backup hardrive, clarinet, iphone, portable phone charger, notebooks, and many other sentimental valuables. I have been working with the police and a detective to try to get my stuff back but to no avail. I accept that these things are gone forever. My computer and backup not only had pictures of the last five years and my entire music collection, but also had about two albums’ worth of my own original music. And now it’s all gone. Seeing that now a huge part of my soul has been destroyed, I am inspired to be as creative as possible. I’m ready to push “restart.”
Looking back to two years ago, I had an idea to start a blog which would simultaneously focus on the non-musical aspects of my life along with giving people helpful strategies to improve their lives. Now that this “incident” has occurred, I am inspired to finally go ahead and put this in place. I am also inspired to discuss how my life has changed as a result of the incident. These will be main ideas that I will be sharing in this blog. Thank you for reading
My current purpose of this blog is to discuss all things music and to try to help fellow aspiring musicians. I hope to be of some help musically and emotionally as well. The discussion may range from scales to song form to how to make a logistical decision.